(First written 7/28/06)
When I tell people that we’ve lived fulltime together in a small sailboat/RV for 6 years, almost always they react with the statement: “You must like each other a lot.” The fact of the matter is that we do – but, unknown to them, the smallness of the space actually enhances the liking. Most people seem to think, instead, that it would enhance the frustrations and annoyances. Not true. In a small space you end up having conversations or interactions about all manner of things on all manner of topics at all manner of times simply because of the proximity.
To quote Bill (see Bill’s Wisdom) : “The essence of trust is how safe is it for me to be me with this person as opposed to being careful?” Living together in a small space forces each person to be more openly “me.” Thus, it can significantly enhance the trust in a relationship – if you let it. If/when we have to move “ashore” it will definitely be into a small space.